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Moodiness: 10 Tips to Keep it Under Control

moodiness and menopause

If you fly off the handle for no apparent reason, you may be experiencing moodiness that is sometimes associated with perimenopause. Situations, people, sounds that never bothered you before are suddenly in your face, ears, nose, mouth and under your skin.

The good news is that most of these feelings of irritability will dissipate once you are in full-blown menopause. This article is meant to help us all before we do some irreparable damage to ourselves, our jobs, our loved ones or our nemesis.

Whenever I catch myself thinking nasty little thoughts and before I react, I run through this list in my head and pick the one that will work the best. I'm not perfect in this, but neither will you be. Don't sweat it too much.

What is causing our menopause mood swings?

It can be related to the unexpected and unpredictable shifts in hormone levels.

It can be related to other perimenopausal symptoms that make us grouchy such as insomnia and the resulting feelings of fatigue, possible weight gain, hot flashes and poor concentration.

It can be related to changes that are totally unrelated to perimenopause such as untreated depression, medications, thyroid disorder, alcoholism, nutritional deficiencies, sugar overload, and stressful life situations. Any of these conditions may require you additional appropriate professional help.

More bad news. Our moodiness may cause the other perimenopausal symptoms to increase in severity and frequency such as hot flashes, insomnia and depression. And I haven’t even mentioned that our partners, children, friends and pets may perceive us to be so crazy that they dismiss us and our opinion, or even worse, they may be ready to bolt.

What we don't always realize about our moodiness.

No matter how erratic our hormones are, did not create these negative feelings. They may intensify the feelings we already have, but they didn’t initiate them.

Sometimes we have some legitimate issues in our lives that truly need t o be addressed. Perimenopause will no longer allow us to put these issues on the back burner.

However, how we EXPRESS our feelings is, in my opinion, entirely under our control. Of course, we can always plead innocence based on insanity as our defense, but I don’t think that’s a good idea.


10 Tips

  1. Keep our mouths shut. Pause. When we feel the irritability coming on, we ought to sit down, take a deep breath- or fifty- and think rationally about how we will CHOOSE to respond.
  2. Tell our significant others that we are experiencing perimenopause but that we promise to treat everyone with respect despite. This helps us to keep accountable.
  3. Exercise. Fitness helps to alleviate all of our perimenopausal symptoms, including irritability. It does that by increasing brain endorphins, blood flow, and oxygen in the cells. Exercise also relaxes us, reduces our stress hormones and improves our sleep.
  4. Indulge in relaxation modes of choice.
  5. Choose not to lash out. it is counter-productive and it can be hurtful.
  6. Eat and drink well. Follow my diet for menopause. It is amazing how much food affects our moods. Reduce alcohol intake, processed foods, caffeine, sugar, salt and smoking. All of these negatively affect our hormone levels.
  7. Take Vitamin B6. It is known to reduce emotional symptoms. Start with 50 milligrams twice a day and work up to no more than 300 milligrams daily.
  8. Vitex and chasteberry and maca are natural products that appear to balance hormones. They come in tea (made from the dried berries), pills and tincture form. They may take several months to start working. If your spouse is about to walk out on you I suggest focusing on the other methods as well.
  9. These feelings will pass. The irritability and the menopause mood swings are real but they are intensified by the hormonal shift.
  10. Psychological Support. In severe cases doctors may make this suggestion. Be honest with your doctor about the intensity and duration of your moodiness. There may be some unresolved emotional issues, or the erratic hormones may trigger an underlying psychological diagnosis.

Conclusion for Menopause mood swings and Moodiness.

We don’t have to let our feelings take over. We have the power and the ability to take a bath, take a nap, take a walk, take a deep breath, take herbs, go for a bike ride or indulge in other pleasures until the intense feelings pass. I'm not saying we ought to swallow our words and feelings, I'm saying we should wait until we are feeling like ourselves again to address any issues that need attention in a sane, kind and helpful way. No one is going to listen to a screaming lunatic anyway.

extreme moodiness

by Wendy

Just wanted to share how I am feeling lately with this perimenopause. First of all I am not sure that I am in peri or full blown menopause, my doctor said that as long as I have a uterus I will have a period. Haven't had one in over 5 months but sure have the 'pms' symptoms full blown. I am 50 years old, and in pretty good overall health, maybe 20 pounds over weight (the last ten just came on over the past year). I am experiancing extreme anger, fear, forgetfulness,no patience,low self esteem and some night sweats along with hot flashes. Just like they said on the sites. It is horrible. My doctor is a specialist with bioidentical hormone replacement and I am on all three hormones, testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone creams. It has only been about a month since I have been on them and am apparently suppose to feel better. I am on thyroid medication as well for hypothyroidism. I pray to God that He helps me get through this. After reading the above artical I believe that I do have some control over my emotions and know that I have to address issues in my life that I have previously ignored. My job performance is also suffering. I deal with the public and have noticed that when I get the slightest bit upset, my head 'nods', I can't control it, forcing me to calm down. I do have hope that I will get a handle on this condition and not let it control me. If this helps another, great, but remember this is only one senerio.

Always Angry

by GA

I have always had a bit of a temper. But I have always been able to control it until recently. I am always angry and no matter how hard I try to disguise it or control it everyone around me knows that I am angry and I'm sure they have no idea why. Neither do I. I am not dealing with it very well, I try to walk away, but then am accused of 'stomping' out... I try not arguing, but then am accused of sulking. My husband is pretty much fed up and my daughter doesn't know how to handle it either. No one at work has said anything yet, but I see the expressions and I know my 'tone of voice' isn't what it should be. I really don't want any HRT if I can avoid it, I'm already on enough meds for diabetes. I need some help, but I don't know who to turn to.

What is causing my moodiness?

by Anonymous

Hi. Moodiness is my main issue. I used to be quite calm and relaxed about everything but now the slightest issue can make me irritable and fly off the handle. What is causing my moodiness?

For example, my husband always has control of the remote. Always.

All of a sudden I fly off the handle because I want to watch a program I’m interested in! I know it sounds trivial, but hey, he thinks I am going nuts because I have never been bothered before. He says he doesn’t know anymore what to expect from me. He’s afraid I’m going to go off the deep end. I used to be so predictable.

Your moodiness might be related to too much caffeine. Read more here about caffeine and moodiness.

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