How to be Happy at midlifeQUESTION: How can I be happy at this time in my life? I don't like who I see in the mirror, and I'm afraid that there's nothing good about aging. RESPONSE: There are so many choices available during menopause. Perhpas men will eventually stop whistling at you, or they won't take a second look. But was that really so important? Midlife is a time to reflect on how we want to spend the second half of our lives. How do we want to be remembered, how do we want to contribute to others and this earth, how do we want to give back? I believe we can receive genuine joy and contentment from our accomplishments and from our giving-joy that is much deeper and richer than receiving a whistle. I think all women go through this period of reflection at some point. The more you valued your youth and beauty the harder it will be to accept the signs and symptoms and reality of aging. Also, the culture we live in has a deep effect on our belief system about aging. The more a culture accepts, loves and respects the older women living amongst them, the easier the transition will be. Research has shown that women who live in cultures that respect the older woman have fewer signs and symptoms of menopause than women in other cultures. This makes sense. But again, just like your menopause is unique, so is your source of joy, contentment and fulfillment. I recommend for you to give it some thought. Take some time out with yourself and reflect. Better yet, journal your thoughts. A good way to start the journal is to write 10 things (okay, make it 5)you love about yourself and others. Keep writing until the creative juices start flowing. All the best. |
